Blindness the least of my struggles

Hello, Everyone !

I hope you are all doing well.

I was talking to someone recently and mentioned that I see a counsellor and they responded with ” I would too if I was blind”. I was surprised by this answer. Then the more I thought about it, I am sure that there are many many people out there who assume that I would need to see a counsellor because of living with blindness or any disability.

I talked with my husband after and kind of laughed a little because to be completely honest I do NOT see a counsellor because I am blind and or have a disability. I do NOT talk to my counsellor about being blind. I know that some people can not fathom that that would not be my biggest problem. For me my blindness is not an issue, I am happy with my life as a blind person. I am comfortable with my blindness and since I do not let my blindness determine how I live my life it really doesn’t cause me any problems. I have issues with other people misperceptions of blindness and my abilities but I have lived with that my whole life and enjoy proving people wrong.

I am so much more than a blind person and I have lived a lot in my life and see a counsellor  because I am a mother to 3 children. My 13-year-old daughter also has ADHD. Being a parent can be a challenge especially to teenagers and when you have a child with ADHD it can really make things difficult. I also lost my father to cancer almost 5 years ago, I was very close with my dad in the years before he passed but we also had many issues that we never got a chance to deal with. There are so many other things in my life that I have had to work through. And even though I am blind, that is not one of those things.

If I could give any advice on this topic, it would be; don’t assume that someone’s disability is their biggest struggle. The person with a disability lives their life every day just like you do and they have things happen that have absolutely nothing to do with their disability . Just because our reality is different than yours that does not mean that our disability consumes our lives to the point where we don’t live them.

Thank you for reading ! Have a fabulous day !

Until Next Time !

Ashley and Rick

6 thoughts on “Blindness the least of my struggles

  1. why somebody sees a councillor should only be the business of that person alone and nobody else. People have often asked me about whether I’d consider getting back my sight but why miss something you haven’t got particularly when you know no different? and there are those of us who don’t ever like to talk about our problems and also that’s our business not anybody else’s. by all means they can suggest but don’t push or patronise us in the process.

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      1. what I forgot to say was that we all have our own struggles no two people deal with their struggles in the same way and that is correct making assumsions doesn’t get us anywhere nor is it ever appropriate to trivialise somebody’s struggles nor minimise what somebody is dealing with. it’s easier said than done to say move on each to their own though.

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      2. Yes I agree trivializing what someone is going through never gets us anywhere. If I am having a bad day and am frustrated with my blindness that is ok and it is ok for anyone to have their own struggles and deal with them in their own way.

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