Blind.. But Still A Busy Mom….Meal Tips

Hello Everyone,

I know all of us moms are in the same boat…it is busy! I have 3 kids ages 12, 13, and 16. Three teenagers is hard, and working full time and having to do all of the mom things is hard. Many people think that being blind added to that list would make things harder and to be honest. It is my normal so it really doesn’t affect our life too much. I do things differently and need to be more organized maybe and sometimes things take longer but at the end of the day I am just mom.

One of the times of the day that is the hardest is the witching hour, that is the time between when I get home and when we eat supper. I don’t mind cooking, in fact we eat at home almost every single night. It is not very often that we go out to eat or order food in. The one thing I dislike though is deciding what to cook. I am sure I am not alone in this one.

One of the things that has been working for us for some time now is meal planning. I have been sitting down on the weekend and going through what is in my freezer and pantry and deciding what we will be eating for the next seven or so days. I always ask for suggestions from the peanut gallery so that when they say “this sucks, I don’t like x, y, or z” I can happily say, “well when I am asking for suggestions you can tell me what you would like”. They never do!

Once I have the meal plan all made out, I then go to the store with my husband in tow. Well maybe he has me in tow. Armed with a list, thanks to Alexa. And we get the things that we need for those meals for the week. This way we have saved a ton on groceries, and are definitely not wasting as much food. I take that list and I have and put on a white board on the fridge, so everyone knows what is for supper. It has really helped my sanity because before that; I would be cooking and every kid would come down to the kitchen and ask “what is for dinner?” And when I answered inevitability they would say “uggggghhhhhh I don’t want that” now there is no surprise. Check the board, that is what we are having like it or not. If you don’t like it, give a suggestion.

During the week I take out 2-3 days worth of meat and put it in the fridge. This helps because when I come home there is no need for me to wonder what is for dinner, I already know and I can just go to the fridge and get it started. I am a much happier mom and human being when there is less complaining, and I am not always trying to decide what is for dinner when I am tired and sometimes just ready for the day to be over.

With this method like I said earlier, we have saved a ton on groceries. But there is also less waste and things are always getting used up because we don’t just walk around the store and buy random things. Feel and shop is what my husband calls it. This is when you take your blind wife to the store and she touches everything and says “what is this”. Feel and shop ends with lots of things in the cart, that sounded good to said blind wife. It also has helped us to eat healthier, because if I am deciding at 5pm what we are having for dinner, it is going to be something quick and probably convenience type things. But with this method we are eating more balanced meals because it is planned and prepped and ready to just be cooked.

Hope this helps some of the other moms out there, and if you have not tried this, you should! Let me know how you keep the sanity around meal time and what works for your family.

Until Next Time!

Ashley and Danson

Travelling Alone When You Are Blind

Hello Everyone,

For my work I tend to travel fairly often. I don’t mind travelling, my husband hates to travel so this is a way that I can do that and not have to worry that he hates travelling.

I also do some travel where I am alone and there is no one else with me. I do not travel with a sighted guide. I have had a lot of questions about how I am able to do this. I am going to tell you how I am able to travel alone as a blind woman and be successful.

I want to start this by saying that it is not easy. There are many times when things do not go great, I get lost, I feel insecure, I have anxiety all of the things. But, I work through those things because working through those feelings and moving forward to accomplish what I want makes me stronger. It is what helps me to grow as a person and what has helped me to be as confident in myself as I am. When you are able to work through the tough stuff it builds your confidence faster than anything else.

Some of the ways that I am able to travel alone is that I plan, plan, plan. I make sure that when I am picking flights, I choose the ones that make the most sense if at all possible. For example I try not to choose flights that have a layover more than 2 hours. This is because air ports can be hard to navigate, they are busy and food and washrooms are not always close to the gate you end up at. Also because I have a guide dog I want to be sure that I don’t have to go through security to take him to go to the bathroom and then go back through security to the gate, it is just a lot of extra stress that I don’t need.

I use a combination of apps that allow me to be as independent as possible, some of my favourites are Blind Square, Seeing AI, Aira, Be My Eyes. I also use a Victor Trek to be able to have many options for GPS and other tools to help me navigate. I like the Victor Trek because it does not rely on data. I use a lot of data when travelling. The other thing I do is call a friend or my husband using face time if I am needing to confirm something. For example I found my way to a mall but wasn’t quite sure if I was right because I had to reroute due to a lack of side walks in some places so I wanted to confirm I was at the right place, so I face timed a good friend and she was able to look around and tell me yes I had in fact made it to the mall.

Another thing that I have to do to travel alone successfully is be ok asking for help and asking questions. I have to stop random people on sidewalks, in air ports, in hotels, and ask for directions or help finding the places that I am looking to go. This was something that I struggled with when I was younger, I felt like if I asked for help, I was admitting that I couldn’t do it on my own. But I soon figured out that if I wanted to live the life that I wanted to I would have to ask for help to be as independent as possible.

There are times when by the end of a day I am exhausted, it is a lot of work to travel alone, I can be mentally done some days when I get to the hotel. But in the end it is worth it all because that is the life that I want to live. And at the end of the day we all want to live a life that we choose, we don’t want to sit back and accept less because it is hard or because we feel like a disability doesn’t allow us too.

Check out the last video I posted about finding some coffee on my latest trip at https://youtu.be/6QROP-MOFF4

Until Next Time !

Ashley and Danson