There has been a huge focus on living a slower more mindful life especially over the last year with COVID and everyone needing to stay home. A great pressure to slow down, take time for self-care, spending time with family and living this new life.
These are all things that work for some, I love the extra time with my family (some days) and I like to make sure I am taking care of myself and my mental health – which is a challenge that so many of us are facing. This idea that this slower, more back to the roots life is what is best for everyone. Is this really the case though?
Hustle culture is almost a swear word these days. The idea that being career driven, being busy with many things on your plate is the worst thing a person can do. Although I happen to disagree. There is something to be said for us all being Individuals and Needing something different. We are not all the same, our brains are not all wired the same. For some a rest in the sun in the hammock, just being is what will fill their cup and help them to be ready to take on the next half of the day or the week ahead. That is great for that person who has figured out that that is what they are needing.
For me, and others that is not the case. i don’t feel like sitting around doing nothing fuels me and fills up my cup. I feel great after I have been able to do something I am passionate about, reading a book while cleaning, studying for an exam (even though I despise Economics), writing a blog post, filming a video, working on rebranding this blog (exciting announcements coming).
Those are the things that fill my cup, I always am made to feel bad because I have too much on my plate, or I am too career driven, I need to slow down. Yes you are right some times I say “yes” to too many things, some days are harder than others, especially when I am feeling like garbage, but what makes me smile, love, and be the best version of me is when I am working towards something I want.
I love my career it is something i have worked damn hard to get and maintain, and I am not where I want to be yet. I will continue to work hard, prioritize my work, prioritize learning more, building skills and working on my side hustle. I think in these times we need to understand that we are all different and we all work and are successful in different ways.
Now don’t get me wrong I like a slow day, I love to relax, but I love to be busy. When I can’t because of health or whatever the reason is I feel like I have ants in my pants. I have to figure out ways to keep working towards those goals. Is this healthy? Some may say absolutely not, in fact they may tell me to meditate and take a look at my life. But I am telling you this is what works and we should not make others feel bad for being this way. It doesn’t need to be one or the other.
So if you are like me and thrive in the busy, have goals you are working every day to crush, love your career and put in the time to get to where you want to go and everyone is telling you to slow down. Remember you need to do what is right for your life, and know what fills your cup. If it is work, then you go girl and do what makes you the best version of you!
Until Next Time,
Ashley and Danson